Contmplating Absent Friends

As i was thinking (the brief 4 seconds or so that i actually think with my brain before i turn the task over to my fingers) i thought maybe an alternate title to this blog might be "missing friends" or "lost friends" but the reality is that i'm not thinking of people who need to be found, but rather people that i consider friends but i am not in current contact with them.

and there are a lot of them.

in fact, 2 things come to mind. the first is my friend krystal who has been absent from my life for quite a few years, but whom, we learned when we were in frequent contact, we had come in and out of each other's lives several times over several years beginning with our childhood. and so although i don't really know where she is now and i doubt i could reach her, i expect that i will eventually run into her again.

and that reminds me of this thing i once heard and i'm sure i'll get it quite wrong. but i heard once that Chinese people believe there is a red thread that connects you to all of the people you will come in contact with in your life. and those people with whom the contact will be greater have thicker red ropes and those with whom the contact will be brief have thin, wispy threads.

i've been blessed in so many ways to have come to know some of the people i have known so far. and i especially am grateful for those special friends with whom i don't speak with often or regularly but when we connect, we pick right up where we left off with little catching up needed. i think it's pretty cool that i know lots of people like that. Rochelle, Janet, Krystal, Floyd, Lisa, David, Roxane, Sarah, Tony, Kari, Cindy...

And then, of course, there are those people whom i miss very dearly and wish it were possible to have contact with them more than i do but that i can't. For too many varied reasons. miss you. hope to see you again soon.